Seeking her Approval is Dating Suicide
Being insecure and seeking approval from women is by nature acting highly feminine. Insecurity discourages success and independence. Like everything else the media suggests men should do, the exact opposite is the right attitude. Yet a majority of men are intellectually tone deaf to the whole concept. They feebly play along at the slightest whiff of potential sex. When you play the castrated metrosexual role, women see it as a big red bulls-eye on your wallet. Plus, they're immediately sexually turned off. If you are doing this approach out of inexperience, snap out of it immediately. Once you give off the slightest hint of insecurity, you're closing ratio plummets, and you become off limits to the type of women you should be pursuing.
The strong alpha player knows to avoid this male weakness, and exploits the opposite characteristic to his advantage. Think about it. How can being insecure be an attractive trait? Is insecurity the type of masculine behavior that accomplishes anything of value? In business, innovation is defined by being secure in your thinking, and bold in your actions. Without being strong and taking risks, there would be no entrepreneurs in the country, no competitive sports; nothing that requires testosterone and drive would exist. Imagine taking feminism in a time machine back to the 15th century and seeing how it fairs. Try to envision Maximus the Roman Gladiator going into battle with Katie Couric as his leader.
"Now Max, let's all be nice to the other army, take our Ritalin, and share our feelings in the time out room. Now which one of you silly little boys is carrying mypanty shields?"
How you handle yourself when women test you is important. If your woman tries whining and criticism to get her way, the alpha response is not yelling back or getting defensive. What you should do is laugh that she thinks she has that kind of authority over your life.
"I told you what I'm doing tomorrow night, I'm not asking for your permission. Funny stuff. What reality show did you learn that from ?"
Nobody should have the power to decide what you do in life. To be an achiever in life requires taking action when opportunities arise. The only way you can ever achieve things is to take risks. If you spend your life asking for permission for things around woman, two things will happen. She will say no, and you will simultaneously have handed over all your power to her, and erased yourself from her list.
Never ask a woman for permission for anything. Be a man. Make firm decisions to do things, tell her what you are going to do, and invite her along for the ride. If she complains about your choice, the correct answer is "You don't have to go." If she gives you more lip about your decision and counters with "let's go drop a grand shopping so I can make Tiffany jealous," ignore the comment. Reply back with 'Wo big deal, I thought I'd ask you first" and hang up.
Suppose she decides to join you and ends up dissatisfied with it anyway. It's better taking action and doing something, than fretting about it, getting shot down and doing nothing at all. If she wants an apology, that's a no win situation as well. By apologizing, you are again seeking her approval, and acting insecure. This is playing a losing hand. Never apologize to women. Even if you're caught in bed banging her roommate, blame in on the girl. Never feel guilty. You're just doing exactly what women do to men. The female capacity to lie, cheat, deny, and break promises knows no boundaries. They're just emotional statements that she'll rationalize later.
Compare that to the typical beta male making his move on a hard body.
"Ifnoone is sitting here next to you, do you think I could possibly join you and maybe buy you a drink? You 're so beautiful; you must be a model. Would you like to empty my wallet now before you get too bored? "
When you ask out women, they need to know you have set the proper mix values in your life. You are very busy in business and socially, but that you will set aside some time to be with them because you're attracted, BUT, if they give you any grief about it, it is no big deal. You have to show the ability to walk away from them, no matter how hot looking they are. This is how a secure man acts, and how he attracts women into the lair.
As far as sex, an insecure man is passive and petrified to make the wrong move, and always waits for signals from her before making any physical moves. Bad, bad, bad. Obviously you should wait until you have developed a sufficient comfort zone with her before attacking. If you don't, at best you only get one night stands. But you still have to be a man and make the moves, or she will lose any lust and desire for you.
1. The Experienced Player Image
2. Be Passionate and Articulate
3. Insecurity
4. Seeking her Approval
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